You Complete Me

It's time to talk about SINGLENESS! This is one of the most important aspects of moving forward in Christ. The "singleness season" is sometimes viewed as some kind of curse. However, it is actually a blessing. Oftentimes as singles, we look for people to fulfill us and make us whole. In actuality, Jesus is the ONLY one who brings complete fulfillment. During this season of singleness, you have the opportunity to completely fall in love with Jesus without any distractions. Let’s take a look at some more benefits of this season: 

• Healing- The Holy Spirit now has time to heal your heart completely. He exposes every broken area in your heart and begins to mend them. Wounds from past relationships will heal and forgiving your exes will become easier. This is also where the chains of sexual addictions can break off. It’s important we counsel with the Holy Spirit about our insecurities, weaknesses, and pain. If you are not healed from these issues, you will carry it into your future relationships.
• Maturity- I hear so many young people complain about their singleness. Child, slow down—enjoy your youth. This is the time where you can grow fully into your womanhood or manhood. Your maturity at 18 will be totally different at 20. No one wants to be in a relationship with an immature person, right? Really take the time to mature naturally with Jesus.
• Growth- You now have the free time to grow with the Holy Spirit. A relationship with God is the BEST relationship to have. It’s filled with never ending  love, joy, and absolute peace. You can worship, read your bible, develop a prayer life and spend time with Him without being so distracted. If you know how to draw closer to the Lord while you're single, you will know how to draw closer to Him when you are in a relationship. You can use this season to grow deeper in your relationship with your FIRST LOVE—Jesus Christ.
•  Wholeness- During this season, the Holy Spirit can finally make you whole. After all of the healing, you are no longer fragment pieces but a whole vessel, ready to be filled up with more of Him.

Have you ever seen the 1996 film, Jerry Maguire? There’s a scene in the movie where Tom Cruise’s character wins back the heart of his love with this line, “I love you. You complete me.” Many times we desire this “fairytale” kind of love that we see in movies, not realizing that we already have this love in Jesus. We all want our prince charming to come sweep us off of our feet or the girl of our dreams to knock us out of our seats. But why would God send us our future husband or wife when we still are not whole? That will only lead to arguments, insecurities, heartache, and ultimately divorce. In our season of singleness, we MUST press into God's presence to receive the wholeness we need. This keeps us from putting all of our worth into our significant others when we are in a relationship. Our worth should only be found in Christ because HE is the only one who completes us.

-If you can't find peace in your singleness with Jesus, you definitely won't find peace in a relationship.-

Believer, don’t look for a man or woman to TRY to do what only God CAN do. Only God can complete you. Today, let the Lord begin His completion process in you. The Lord wants to give you the desires of your heart but you have to delight yourself in Him first (Psalm 37:4). Yes, there will be times where you FEEL lonely. It’s important at the moment to acknowledge that you are not alone and His presence is with you. “Lord, I know that You are with me! You are all I need. You complete me!” Immediately go into worship when loneliness rears its head. Beloved, you want to move into your next relationship already complete in Jesus. Ask the Holy Spirit to give you peace and contentment in this season if you are anxious (Philippians 4:6-7). Take advantage of your season of singleness. Fall in love with the One who has been madly in love with you before the foundations of the Earth were created.